I don't think you can make a generalization like that. I have met small business owners who think exactly as you did, that they would rather do it themselves. They take a certain pride in what they do and they're not interested in government services. There are many who would take advantage of government services if they knew they were available. They don't. There are many that do take advantage of government services and prosper for it.
I think there are many education programs, incentive programs, that small business should be taking advantage of. They're not designed to pick winners; they're designed to help everyone. It's about connection.